So, if you see your partner feeling anxious or jittery about the wedding, sit with them and talk about issues that are bothering them and then try to solve them out. Often, people tend to worry about how lives will change after marriage. So instead of talking about what could be, talk about things you will end up doing together after the marriage. And in case you are anxious about the wedding, sit down with your partner and share what you are feeling, and express what you want, clearly.
Keep sipping black coffee. Black coffee has the same hormones, which are responsible for keeping one happy. Try to stay busy till the wedding, and not with things around the wedding. Join a gym, or start playing a sport. Basically, get busy with something that keep your mind away from the wedding. Another way to tackle, and avoid such jitters is to basically make sure that you have positive frame of mind.
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Tell us what you think Thanks for adding your feedback. If there has been violence, threats of violence or shaming or controlling behavior in your relationship, you need to seek the support of a therapist to better understand the dynamics of the abuse and why you choose to stay. If you are questioning the relationship because there has been abusive behavior in the past, please listen to your instincts. Slow things down and find some support. Abuse rarely only occurs once.
It is a pattern of behavior that cycles through wonderful times and then abusive or controlling times. It will happen again unless there is an intervention. Addiction is not just about alcohol or drugs. We can become addicted to food, shopping, sex, pornography and even to a relationship. Addictions wreak havoc in a relationship, especially with trust. In some ways, the addiction becomes a third person in the relationship. If your partner has an addiction, there is also the possibility that you feel like you are what holds this person together.
Without you, you feel they would fall apart or perhaps become depressed or suicidal which may leave you feeling trapped. This is a very difficult way to begin a marriage. If you are having doubts about getting married because there is an addiction or addictive behavior, then information is your most important intervention. AA and Smart Recovery are two wonderful organizations that provide information, literature, meetings and support groups.
You will begin to understand what an addiction is, how to live with an addiction and how to be in a healthy relationship with an addict. Many people who struggle with addictions are in rewarding, supportive and wonderful marriages. It does not mean that your relationship is doomed but it does mean that your relationship will have unique challenges. You need to be able to make an informed decision about the relationship. A psychotherapist or counselor who specializes in addiction is another great place to get information and support.
Difficult family relationships. When you get married you are creating a new family. In order for there to be room for this new family, you must first separate from your family of origin your parents. This sounds easy as I type it but I have seen many couples where this step gets messy. Family dynamics and politics are complicated and unique.
You cannot change anyone else's behavior, expectations or feelings but you can make sure that you and your spouse are a team.
You need to be unified in your expectations, boundaries and message to others. A couples counselor is the best place to learn these skills and to come up with a plan of action to cope with the wedding day and every day after.
Problems will arise if your partner is not willing or able to do this very important step of individuating and creating a new family. It can be very lonely in a marriage where you don't feel that you are a central player; resentment and anger can build up quickly. Consider individual counseling so you can learn how to best ask for your needs from your partner and then couples counseling to help you both understand the need for boundaries and how to create them for yourselves.
Is there a history of cheating in your relationship? It is devastating to have your trust betrayed and forgiveness and healing each take a long time. But trust can be rebuilt and relationships can be stronger after a betrayal.
It makes sense for there to be anxiety about entering into a commitment when there has been an affair. The fear is that "once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't believe this sentiment. But I do believe that you both need to understand what caused the opening in your relationship for this third person; was it something in your dynamic together or was it something solely within the person who cheated?
A psychotherapist or couples counselor can help greatly with this process. Sex is a complicated topic. It is central to an intimate relationship but it can feel almost impossible to talk about. Sex becomes an issue in a relationship when it is either too intense or there is no intensity at all.
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